SOFFA (Significant Others, Family, Friends and Allies) of Transgender and Non-Binary Persons is a support group for those close to someone who is or feels they may be transgender, transsexual, or gender non-binary.

We meet twice monthly, on the first and third Wednesdays of the month at 6.30 – 8.00 by Zoom &/or at Johnson County Library meeting rooms.  Our aim is to help people handle their feelings, fears, hopes and learn to deal with the changes in their relationships, to help them adjust and to learn how to support their transgender/gender nonbinary person.  After most meetings, we go across to the Starbucks in Barnes & Noble across from Leawood Pioneer Library to chat further.  I also usually only delete old meetings out at the end of the month, so do not worry about if the group still exists if you can see earlier meetings than today’s date.  It does not auto-update.

Please note that in order to encourage open communication about concerns and questions, SOFFA meetings are restricted to non-transpersons.  We do have several socials during the year for the whole family to attend (if they wish to).

If you have any questions about SOFFA, please email Fiona at  There is also a SOFFA group on Facebook where you can chat privately or share resources – contact Fiona to be added.

This is a copy of our flyer with our information on – it prints two to a sheet if anyone wants to give a copy to friends, or people needing support –  Note – it mentions that occasionally we use Lackman Library. That was only rarely if room clashes arose and Lackman Library is closing.  All meetings are at Leawood Pioneer (once we return to face-to-face meetings) unless stated otherwise below.  An updated flyer will be coming soon.


January 5th – Zoom Call, 6.30pm – 8:00pm.
January 19th – Zoom Call, 6.30pm – 8:00pm.

February 2nd – Zoom Call, 6.30pm – 8:00pm.
February 16th – Zoom Call, 6.30pm – 8:00pm.

March 2nd – Zoom Call, 6.30pm – 8:00pm.
March 16th – Zoom Call, 6.30pm – 8:00pm.

If we ever come out of quarantine again, it will be back at Leawood Pioneer Library at 4700 Town Center Drive, Leawood, KS 66211.  Until then, we are on Zoom, accessible by computer, phone app or dialing in the phone number details below.

Leawood Pioneer Google Map

Details for First & Third Wednesday Zoom Call:

Phone one-tap: +13126266799,,88584413327#,,,,,,0#,,122412# US (Chicago)
+16465588656,,88584413327#,,,,,,0#,,122412# US (New York)
Meeting URL:
Meeting ID: 885 8441 3327
Password: 122412
Join by Telephone
For higher quality, dial a number based on your current location.
Dial: US: +1 346 248 7799 or +1 669 900 9128 or +1 253 215 8782 or +1 312 626 6799 or +1 646 558 8656 or +1 301 715 8592
Meeting ID: 885 8441 3327
Password: 122412